If you fall in love, believe with all your heart it will last forever. If it does not, understand that what you have experienced is part of the cycle of life. Nothing and no-one remains the same forever. Life is constantly changing and so too, will all your relationships. Relationships are critically important in order to grow and evolve, and we will all experience having to let go and move forward at some point along the way.
Some of us refuse to grow and hold on due to fear and self imposed limitations. Our parents had no choice but to remain in dead love affairs due to the pressures and dictates of society. Times have changed. Couples do not stay together forever anymore but too many leave before they have learnt the lessons they were destined to learn from their chosen partner and so they continue on to experience the same consequences.
Take a look at love in the world today where divorce is so common, where many children are raised in single parent households. A world reflected in print and on TV, with numerous famous couples (who many once believed truly secure and happy), ending long term relationships. They may be celebrities with different lifestyles, but they experience the same love challenges as everyone else such as vulnerability, lust, loyalty, monogamy, insecurity, fear, betrayal, addiction and physical appeal.
It's never too late to make different choices and find happiness in love, even when it hurts like hell and you feel your life is over. It's not! Endings are actually exciting new beginnings, new magical moments, new places, new experiences. Even the majority of soulmate relationships run their course and have to let go.
So if you are in love, embrace it and let your spirit soar. When you begin to experience continuous pain or stagnation, LET GO. The journey of life is all about love from which we discover who we are and who we are not in order to realize the fullest potential of the special gifts we each have to share with the world. Love is but a game and the winners are those who give and receive love unconditionally without fear.
|Freedom of Choice:
In today's society women have more options, more equality. Women can support themselves and be mothers without having to have a husband or partner. In years past, women had little choice than to be full time housewives, dependent on a husband for financial support. The result was many couples stayed together very unhappily following the dictation of society. If a women had a child outside of marriage, it was considered wrong. Same sex love affairs and inter-racial relationships were forbidden and punished. Today there is greater freedom and acceptance than ever before to express love openly, to no longer remain in a miserable relationship, to live as a single parent and to choose to live outside of a paper marriage without societies unsolicited, ridiculous approval or not.
To marry or not to marry.
less likely to have an affair.
Love is a beautiful garden. Take great care of it together.
Married Soulmates that have beaten the odds:
so in love:
Faith Hill and
Tim Mac Graw, Since 1996.
Today, there is no excuse for any man or woman not to be able to fully support themselves and follow their dreams. Unfortunately, this new found freedom has led to couples ending relationships all too easily without really trying to make it last through the challenging times as well as the magical, romantic times. Money issues are a huge factor in relationship breakdowns, either lack of it or different attitudes on handling it. Parenting issues raise stress levels even higher, when women neglect their own needs, live through their children, and both partners conflict on how to raise them. Children also push buttons, mirroring back their parents weaknesses as well as their strengths.
Often, people grow apart as they experience more of life. When this happens, you will need a new relationship to grow in otherwise resentment, frustration and anger sets in. Partners begin to cheat, lie and become distant, even abusive, mentally, physically and emotionally. Human beings are not naturally monogamous and if you decide to be with another partner whilst still in a relationship, it is obviously time to be honest with yourself that there is lack of communication, misunderstanding and unhappiness between the two of you. Issues exist that desperately need to be resolved.
Elizabeth Hurley (Gemini) and Hugh Grant (Virgo)
Parted after 13yrs together, never married, the greatest of friends.
When trust is
broken, love follows closely behind.
When you know in your heart the time to move on has arrived, do so as honestly, gently and as lovingly as you can, before pain, grief, anger and wasted years set in. Letting go of anything in life, is the most challenging thing we have to do as human beings, but it is the act of holding on that causes the deepest pain, extreme hurt, sleepless nights and years of healing. There is nothing more destructive than emotional attachment, especially when one or both partners become co-dependent on the other.
Never hold on too tight, to what you love.
Practice learning not to become attached to anything in life. Begin with objects and events. Then, apply it to people. Learn to love who you are and become comfortable with your own company. If you do not love yourself, how can you expect someone else to? Love for yourself and others takes time, so be patient and never depend on another to fulfill you and to give you happiness. Only YOU can find that, and you will discover it is within you, NOT without. By holding on to people and things, you will lose and destroy what you have. By letting go, you will forever have, what you set free!Mid Life Crisis - The Seduction of Youth.
Kim Basinger, (Sagittarius)
- Alec Baldwin, (Aries).
Met in 1991,
Insecurity and Fear.
Couples who fight after separation, couples who refuse to remain friends are in for a surprise. The next relationship will most likely turn out the same way. The reason for no communication after a relationship or hateful communication, is FEAR. Fear of facing something incomplete within yourself that the other person reminds you of. Your new partner will sooner or later bring up the same fear in you. You cannot run away from yourself. All relationships are opportunities for you to learn about YOU. Every relationship will mirror the parts of yourself you love, the parts you hate, parts you need to let go of, and parts you need to enhance. Many relationships, are mirrors of unresolved challenges with your mother or father, that need to be set right.
The not so naive 'victim':
Anna Nicole Smith may appear stupid, and may have truly loved her father figure husband, but the REAL lure is money, possessions and travel. What young girl can resist a life of leisure with the option to party with girlfriends and 'shop till you drop', whilst the aging hubby clings devotedly to her mini skirt.
A relationship is not a place to learn all about your partner and then proceed to try and change them, or to tear them down, so as to feel better and in control. It is not uncommon for men to have a mid-life crisis around 40 to 45+ and begin dating girls in their early twenties. These men need to know they are still attractive and desirable to the opposite sex and even go so far as to marry them. Their bride is then a trophy to show off to other men that they are still desirable and sexually appealing. The young bride also gives them the opportunity for manipulation, molding and control. The result is that sooner or later, the man will reflect the winter of physical age and generation differences, and the young girl, now older, wiser and financially richer for the experience, will grow, mature, eventually rebel, and leave him for springtime.
Who will stand the test of age difference over time?
Billy Bob Thornton, 48 (Leo)
& Angelina Jolie 28 (Gemini) .
20yrs age difference. DIVORCED
Mena Suvari (actress), 25 & Robert Brinkman
(director of photography), 41.
16yrs age difference. DIVORCED
Madonna, 45 (Leo) & Guy Ritchie, 35.
10yrs age difference. DIVORCED.
Catherine Zeta-Jones, 34 (Libra)
& Michael Douglas, 59 (Libra).
25yrs age difference.
Catherine has always preferred
and dated older men.
Friendship can last forever.
Loving someone and being in love are two different states. Meg Ryan was truly in love and lust with Russell Crowe (Aries), who she had a brief passionate affair with. There was a deep connection at soul level and astrologically. but Dennis Quaid (Aries) is the man she has loved and enormously respected for years.
|"Parting is such sweet sorrow"
More and more couples are choosing to remain close friends when they part. How can you not?!! The two of you have history together and often have children too. The two of you have laughed and cried together. You have shared intimate days, nights and years together. You have shared magical moments and emotional bonding. There is nothing more valuable than friendship and choosing to remain friends is a wise, mature and spiritually evolved act of love.
Divorced couples who are the GREATEST
Rod Stewart, 59 (Capricorn)
& Rachel Hunter, divorced after 9 yrs, 2 children
... AND Kelly Emberg
with 1 child ... AND Alana with
Diane Ladd 64 &
Bruce Dern, 67, divorced after 9 yrs. with 1 child...
Mick Jagger, 60 &
Jerry Hall, 47 (Cancer), 22 year relationship, 4 children...
Now divorced. "He's
a great friend, just a lousy husband.
& Eric Benet.
The Look of Love.
Have you ever really looked at two people in love, in a long term relationship? Take a look at some of the couples on this page and notice how similar they are! They usually mirror the exact same smile and facial expression and reflect the same body language.
Elizabeth Taylor (Pisces) & Richard Burton (Scorpio).
Married to each other twice! Firey, passionate soulmates.
A soulmate is someone who pushes buttons inside us that no-one else can. A soulmate is someone you have a deep bond with, beyond words and understanding - A person who you will learn and grow from more than in any other relationship. Soulmates teach us who we are and who we are not. They show us what we need to let go off and what we need to enhance. They magnify our inner beauty and strengths as well as our imperfections and weaknesses. They are someone with whom we find home. Meeting a soulmate does not mean you will live happily ever after. Soulmates find each other and connect so as to move each other forward in life and often the journey is shared together only for a few years or months. The lessons are always deep, with extreme emotions of happiness and pain.
'Both will undergo an emotional transformation, a soul cleansing, for being together will dredge up all of their unfinished emotional business and feelings of which they may not even have believed themselves capable. This may feel like a 'fatal attraction,' and one that is irresistible, even if one or both of them wants to run the other way. A significant part of their purpose in coming together is to clear up and heal the past ... old grief, jealousies, wounds and unresolved emotions, many of which they may have forgotten about until now! They will inspire each other to try to live out some of their highest ideals or best dreams.' - Source unknown
FYI: We have more than one soulmate. Each one is different. They may be a lover, or a best friend, or a parent, or your child. No matter what your relationship with them, they will change your life and have a lasting unforgettable impact on your heart, your soul, your life.
Paul Newman (Aquarius)
& Joanne Woodward (Pisces).
Married 1957 to his death in 2008.
Paul (Gemini) & Linda Mc Cartney (Libra). Married 30yrs, 4 children.
Separated for only a couple of nights, in their entire relationship.
No matter what, nothing and no-one can break the invisible soul connection between soulmates
... not death or time or distance. At another place in the eternity of time, the two of you will pick
up and continue where you left off.
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