Keys To Happiness
The Awakening
A time comes in your life when you finally get it... When in the midst of all your fears and insanity
you stop dead in your tracks and somewhere the voice inside your head cries out - ENOUGH!
Enough fighting and crying, or struggling to hold on. And, like a child quieting down after a blind tantrum,
your sobs begin to subside, you shudder once or twice, you blink back your tears and through a mantle
of wet lashes you begin to look at the world through new eyes.

This is your awakening.

You realize that it's time to stop hoping and waiting for something to change, or for happiness, safety
and security to come galloping over the next horizon. You come to terms with the fact that he is not
Prince Charming and you are not Cinderella and that in the real world, there aren't always fairy tale
endings (or beginnings for that matter) and that any guarantee of "happily ever after" must begin with
you, and in the process... a sense of serenity is born of acceptance.

You awaken to the fact that you are not perfect and that not everyone will always love, appreciate or
approve of who or what you are... and that's OK (they are entitled to their own views and opinions).
And you learn the importance of loving and championing yourself, and in  the process... a sense of
found confidence is born of self-approval.

You stop complaining and blaming other people for the things they did to you (or didn't do for you)
and you learn that the only thing you can really count on is the unexpected. You learn that people
don't always say what they mean or mean what they say, and that not everyone will always be there
for you and that it's not always about you. So, you learn to stand on your own and to take care of
yourself and in the process... a sense of safety and security is born of self-reliance.

You stop judging and pointing fingers and you begin to accept people as they are and to overlook
their shortcomings and human frailties and in the process... a sense of peace & contentment is born
of forgiveness.

You realize that much of the way you view yourself, and the world around you, is as a result of all the
messages and opinions that have been ingrained into your psyche. You begin to sift through all the crap
you've been fed about how you should behave, how you should look, how much you shouldn't weigh,
what you should wear, where you should shop and what you should drive, how and where you should
live, what you should do for a living, who you should marry, what you should expect of a marriage,
the importance of having and raising children, or what you owe your parents.

You learn to open up to new worlds and different points of view. And you begin reassessing and
redefining who you are and what you really stand for. You learn the difference between wanting and
needing, and you begin to discard the doctrines and values you've outgrown, or should never have
into to begin with, and in the process... you learn to go with your instincts.

You learn that it is truly in giving that we receive. And that there is power and glory in creating and
contributing, and you stop maneuvering through life merely as a "consumer" looking for your next fix.
Your learn that principles such as honesty and integrity are not the outdated ideals of a by gone era,
but the mortar that holds together the foundation upon which you must build a life.
You learn that you don't know everything, it's not your job to save the world and that you can't teach
a pig to sing. You learn to distinguish between guilt and responsibility, and the importance of setting
boundaries and learning to say NO. You learn that the only cross to bear is the one you choose to carry
and that martyrs get burned at the stake.

Then you learn about love. Romantic love and familial love. How to love, how much to give in love,
when to stop giving, and when to walk away. You learn not to project your needs or your feelings onto
a relationship. You learn that you will not be more beautiful, more intelligent, more lovable, or important
because of the man or woman on your arm or the child that bears your name. You learn to look at
relationships as they really are and not as you would have them be. You stop trying to control people,
situations, and outcomes. You learn that just as people grow and change, so it is with love... and you learn
that you don't have the right to demand love on your terms... just to make you happy. And, you learn that
alone does not mean lonely.

And you look in the mirror and come to terms with the fact that you will never be a size 5 or a perfect 10
and you stop trying to compete with the image inside your head and agonizing over how you "stack up".
You also stop working so hard at putting your feelings aside, smoothing things over, and ignoring your
needs. You learn that feelings of entitlement are perfectly OK... and that it is your right to want things
and to ask for the things that you want... and that sometimes it is necessary to make demands.

You come to the realization that you deserve to be treated with love, kindness, sensitivity and respect,
and you won't settle for less. You allow only the hands of a lover who cherishes you, to glorify you
with his touch... and in the process you internalize the meaning of self-respect.

And you learn that your body really is your temple. You begin eating a balanced diet, drinking more water,
and taking more time to exercise. You learn that fatigue diminishes the spirit and can create doubt and fear,
so you take more time to rest. And, just as food fuels the body, laughter fuels our soul,
so you take more time to laugh and to play.

hearts desire
Hearts Desire, Lee Bogle
You learn that, for the most part, in life you get what you believe you deserve... and that much of life
truly is a self-fulfilling prophecy.  You learn that anything worth achieving is worth working for, and
that wishing for something to happen is different from working toward making it happen. More
importantly, you learn that in order to achieve success, you need direction, discipline, and perseverance.
You also learn that no-one can do it all alone and that it's OK to risk asking for help.

You learn that the only thing you must truly fear is the great robber baron of all time; FEAR itself.
You learn to step right into and through your fears, because you know that whatever happens you
can handle it, and to give in to fear is to give away the right to live life on your terms.

And you learn to fight for your life and not to squander it living under  a cloud of impending doom.
You learn that life isn't always fair, you don't always get what you think you deserve, and that sometimes
bad things happen to unsuspecting, good people.  On these occasions you learn not to personalize things.
You learn that God isn't punishing you or failing to answer your prayers. It's just life happening.

And you learn to deal with evil in its most primal state-the ego. You learn that negative feelings such as
anger, envy, and resentment must be understood and redirected, or they will suffocate the life out of you
and poison the universe that surrounds you. You learn to admit when you are wrong and to build bridges
instead of walls.

You learn to be thankful and to take comfort in many of the simple things we take for granted, things
that millions of people upon the earth can only dream about; a full refrigerator, clean running water,
a soft warm bed, a long hot shower.  Slowly, you begin to take responsibility for yourself... by yourself,
and you make yourself a promise... to never betray yourself and to never ever settle for less than your
heart's desire. And you hang a wind chime outside your window so you can listen to the wind. And you
make it a point to keep smiling, to keep trusting, and to stay open to every wonderful possibility.

Finally, with courage in your heart and with God by your side, you take a stand,
you take a deep breath, and you begin to design the life you want to live as best as you can.
~ Copyright by Virginia Marie Swift

Personal Note:
Many, many thanks to Virginia for writing 'The Awakening' - timeless, ancient wisdom,
and sharing it with the world. These are words from an old soul, who KNOWS.
This important piece of work, truly encompasses just about EVERYTHING you need for
your magical adventure and journey through life on earth. Read and re-read 'The Awakening'.
Most importantly, give yourself the greatest gift of all ... live by it!

Value Every Moment!
To realise the value of  ONE YEAR - ask a student who has failed a grade.
To realise the value of  ONE MONTH -  ask a mother who has given birth to a premature baby.
To realise the value of  ONE WEEK -  ask an editor of a weekly newspaper.
To realise the value of ONE DAY -  ask a daily wage labourer who has kids to feed.
To realise the value of  ONE HOUR - ask the lovers who are waiting to meet.
To realise the value of  ONE MINUTE -  ask a person who has missed the train.
To realise the value of  ONE SECOND -  ask a person who has avoided an accident.
To realise the value of  ONE MILLISECOND -
ask the person who has won a silver medal in the Olympics.
~ Source unknown

An evolved person is FREE from:
- craving attention, and can be almost invisible.
- craving awards and recognition.
- having to PROVE anything to anyone.
- caring about being "right" in an argument.
- caring whether they are understood or not.
- expecting other people to understand them.
- having "buttons" that other people can push.
- feeling the world owes them anything.
- feeling someone else owes them anything.
- caring what others think about them.
- caring what others feel about them.
- hiding their head in the sand - ignoring reality.
- feelings of jealousy, impatience, guilt, judgment, inferiority, worthlessness, possessiveness,
inner poverty, lack, clinging, pride, vanity, greed, self pity, needing attention.
- expecting anything from anybody or anything, and thus avoids anger and rage.
- "reacting" to things. If someone insults an evolved person, they don't take it personally,
and see it as the other person's problem.
An evolved person can have fun without being frivolous. They enjoy humor.
And last but not least: Evolved people can love completely without attachment.
~ Copyright Baba Buddha

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