Giving And Receiving Love
Spiritual wisdom & common sense guidance

Hold On Or Let Go?

Everyone must learn to receive as well as to give. It is not so easy for some of us to receive.
Do you feel you don't deserve to?
Do you feel superior?
Do you feel you will be "in debt"?
Refusing, to receive, is stopping the flow of universal energy which is natural and abundant.
Holding on, to something received, also stops the flow of energy.

Let me explain. Put out the palm of your hand in front of you.
Put something on it and close your hand.
Now, how can you possibly receive anything more as long as you are holding on to what you have?

It is a law of the Universe to enjoy and pass along to others, everything you receive.
It is a law of the Universe that everything you give (without attachment to the outcome),
will be returned to you tenfold!

Refusing to receive means you are rejecting a gift of love and joy,
that the person giving you will receive, by you accepting.
Do you enjoy refusing gifts?
Holding on to something means you are afraid of loosing it, will!
The more you resist, the more you manifest the probability it will occur.
Refusal to receive, refusal to give and refusal to let go, is selfish, manipulating and controlling.
It is all fear. Is it time for you to let go?

Also know and really understand, if you keep on giving and giving to someone,
you are preventing them from giving back to you.
Think about this carefully.
The person you constantly give to, will eventually take you for granted,
lose respect for you and walk away.
You will be left alone wondering what on earth you did "wrong"!
You cannot buy love. You cannot make anyone love you.

Each of us must learn to love ourself first, before we can truly love another.
No one can complete you.
You must find that within yourself.
Everyone spends their life looking for the "perfect" relationship.
There is no such thing. People change. People grow. People move on, even soulmates.
Letting go is inevitable whether you want to or not.


So, give with love, give with joy, give without attachment, without expectation
and you will receive fulfillment and happiness.
Whatever you want to have, GIVE!

Want some ideas?
If you lack money, begin tithing.
If you feel unloved, hug those around you and smile at strangers.
Commit and give time to those who need help and support.
Complement with sincerity, your partner, your children, your co-workers, strangers...
for their acheivements, their behaviour, their work, their appearance.
See the greatness in others and they will see it in you!


Thank you all so much for allowing me to inspire, to guide and to teach you.
This page I dedicate to the wonderful people who trusted and believed......
To all those who are afraid but take a huge leap of faith and jump into the unknown and uncertain anyway.
These are the people who REALLY learn to live and discover, happiness!

I have chosen below, excerpts from some of the beautiful letters sent to me, for you all to share.
I hope these letters will inspire those of you who need guidance,
to step up and find the courage to live as you dream.
If you need help, I am only an e.mail away.

No matter what anyone says to you, no matter what society dictates,
the choices of life lie in your own heart.
If you are ever confused, remember...
If it FEELS "right", it is.  If it FEELS "wrong", it is!
Live from your truth, create your dreams, confront all fears and give from your heart.

Letters from YOU!


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